I got a call the other day from my birth mom. The DNA was wrong she stated. The director of VS told her “although I can not release any identifying info to you, I’m looking at your birth records and I can assure you without a doubt, this is not your daughter. So be it. I don’t look a thing like this woman or her family but I’m used to that. It’s just bad that we wasted all this time believing yet another lie. My search continues without a name to go on. My records are sealed and if my non id info is bogus than it is likely no one knows what to look for even if they were looking for me. I’ve never met anyone like me which is strange seeing as I was supposedly adopted in the same city I was born in.
Supposedly (according to nonidinfo from the state) I’m in search of four older siblings. I was adopted through Onondaga county social services. (I remember an airport though) My adopted father told me social workers do that to throw off anyone like foster parents who may follow them trying to find where their baby is going. My birth mother was 36 at the time of my birth with 4 kids prior to me. She died of septicemia caused by strep origin unknown. She had a healthy full term uneventful pregnancy. (Yet died of blood poisoning from giving birth to me) Hell of a sadistic story to make up if it’s made up. No siblings seem to know of me yet they are older. Perhaps I was already gone. Or they were in the system. Otherwise if I remember my adoption at 2 (and I do) they should at their older ages remember me. My birth date could be fabricated. Or town or state etc.
My adopted parents were curious so they said and acted. I always suspected that I was related to my adopted Dad. I look a little like his family. Going through my mother’s belongings though, maybe I’m related to her. They are both from PA and moved to Syracuse right before my adoption.
Although I grew up knowing just my parents and my aunt and uncle on mother’s side, When I was small some of their families still wrote to them on occasion. One letter showed a lot of interest in me. Stating “I think of susie often” could just be a great aunt through adoption. Could be a mother of an unwed mother (mine) too. Nothing’s impossible. Or possible it seems.
I’m redoing my search and this is part of it. But I refuse to get lost online searching like I did before. I spent many hours after work at home and outside of home going through registries and posts. Thousands of entries of people not sure who they were looking for. Not sure of who they were. I have no name to go on not even for myself. It makes it hard.
I tried looking up females who died in Upstate NY of septicemia in 1967. Nothing. I guessed at her year of birth and found one grave that said 1930-1967. One.
Maybe I could contact her family and say “hey, are you missing a little sister?”
I was either adopted twice or in foster care for awhile. No records. I have a few memories. Maybe I was a test subject for the government and was non-compliant with there project deeming me non-programmable lol More exciting than reality I suppose.
My birth mom is dead and my siblings don’t remember me. The woman I thought was my birth mom is convinced she is not now. We “reunited” in 2000. We separated in 2014. 14 more years lost in our search. My adopted parents and aunt and uncle are dead. I do look at people to see if anyone looks like me at all in any way shape or form. Just one of those things.
I’m entering a new DNA test into a sibling registry soon. Life is an adventure.